Why Do Men Back Off In Relationships?
Just why do men back off in relationships, especially when things are looking good?
Let’s say that you find a guy that you think is a bit special, your relationship couldn’t be better, it’s as if you were made for each other, as far as you can tell he feels the same way, and then, for no apparently no reason whatsoever, your guys starts to back off. Now I may be a guy, but to me (and this probably marks me out as a wild, free thinking radical) if you are with someone that you love and to whom you have a real connection, you don’t just run for the hills, you talk things through, you know, I always thought that you were supposed to share things in a relationship, but as I said, I’m a wee bit of a radical.
So why do men back off in relationships, especially when things seem to be going so well? Well there are a number of reasons, some do have some foundation to them, there are some reasons that he will not be able to explain as men rely on gut instinct more than the head or the heart, and I have no doubt whatsoever that some of the reasons will be pretty pathetic. In this article I will be taking a general look at
some of the reasons why men back off in relationships.
You need to remember that guys process their emotions differently to women, they can feel uncomfortable with emotions, and no matter how much he likes and loves you, it can still take a long time for him to work through what he feels for you and to accept those feelings. If he believes that things are moving too quickly then he could feel threatened, he could feel confused. If you you have decided that he is the one, and if you push him to hard to accept that fact, then you could lose him. If you are serious about moving your relationship to the next natural stage, you have to both move forward together, you have to both be ready to take the next step and you both have to want to take the next step! If you push to hard then you could lose your chance of lasting happiness.
Now it could be the case that they have been unlucky in their relationships. If your guy has been hurt before and not found closure on that or those relationships, then he could be carrying around a whole load of baggage that you will need to help him deal with. It could be the case that he is scared to get to close to you in case you leaved him. Soif he finds that he is getting close to you then the panic could settle in and he starts to back off rather than risk going through the pain again.
Have you tried to change your guy into someone that he is not? I think that it’s fair to say that most people, if not all have some things that could really do with changing, however, trying to change who he is into some kind of romantic ideal is a recipe for disaster. What happens if he is happy with who he is and doesn’t want to change, do you think that he will stay with you if you try to change him? Now whilst it’s fair enough to try and change irritating habits, why would you want to change someone that you have fallen in love with? Why would you want to change the person that you love into a stranger? Be happy and accept him for who he is, after all, you did fall in love with him.
Men will back off in relationships if they don’t think that they have a relationship. Probably the greatest cause in marital and relationship breakdown is a lack of communication. If you want your relationship to develop you have to talk to each other, you have to connect and share your lives, feelings, emotions, hopes and dreams together. When you stop talking together what do you have? One thing that you don’t have is a relationship because there is nothing tying you together. Talking is what makes your relationship live and breathe, and it’s only by talking that your relationship will be able to develop to the next stage of your relationship.
There is another reason that men back off in a relationship and that is that they don’t have the decency, and possibly the courage to tell you to your face that it’s over. It’s a sad fact of life that not every couple is compatible, and if he is just running away, it could be that you are better of without him.
It could be that your guy just wanted win you over, and then having won your affections he loses the thrill of the chase, and so starts looking for another lucky girl to transfer his attentions to. I’m sad to say that it might be that all he wanted you for was sex, and he’s now looking for his next conquest. There are always those who like playing mind games, they feed you all the stories that you want to hear, all about the wonderful future that you will have together, these individuals have no interest in commitment, all they are interested in is maintaining the status quo.
Don’t forget, the reason that your man is backing off in your relationship is simply because he is struggling to come to terms with his feelings for you.
There are some quite despicable reasons as to why men back off in a relationship
, and you need to recognize when they are just playing with you. If you want a relationship that can work then you need someone who is genuinely interested in you, whose actions prove it. No matter what stories your are being fed, you cannot build a happy, healthy relationship on inconsistent behaviour. If you want your relationship to move forward it has to be because you both want it to, you both have to be totally committed to making it work. Your relationship can only move forward if you both want it to, and if you are both committed to making it happen.
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